How can I navigate the new normal?

We have learnt to live with the flows of a pandemic, some confined at home, others adventuring out into a world that feels unfamiliar in many different ways.

So many uncertainties, emotions. It has been a time of loss, grieving, retreat. Now slowly it is time to recover our lives, spaces, activities, at a time when the virus is still present, threatening our health and safety. How do we do this?

First, we have to recognize our feelings, no matter what they are. Am I eager to go out and explore? Am I hoping I don´t have to go out and face the danger I perceive is out there? Am I feeling the responsibility of infecting someone because of my actions?

Second, we have to recognize and talk about our feelings and thoughts with those I live with to come to terms with what we are going through, as well as agree on what are the expectations and rules of going out to work, socialize and restart our lives.

Third, we have to decide how we can start to reconnect with loved ones in a safe manner, considering factors such as vulnerability, expectations, styles, etc. We can talk about this with our friends and family, being explicit about what feels safe and comfortable.

If we don´t feel we are ready to be around someone whose style or behaviours is very different to ours, we should pospone seeing them if possible.

Fourth, going out to live our lives can´t be posponed forever. For some it is sooner, and for others later. We have to be respectful of each others experiences, realities and decisions. Let´s be patient and mindful with our own and others processes. Being compassionate to oneself and those around us is the best way of recovering our lives.